verbal abuse links, emotional abuse links, abusive relationship sites


Signs Your Partner May Be Abusive

Lies Abusers tell their Victims

ACT's Emotional Abuse Information

Is He an Emotional Abuser?

Verbal Abuse: Paul & Patrizia's story

Definition of Emotional Abuse, in a Legal Context

You Are Not Crazy

Growing Beyond Emotional Abuse - Links

Domestic Violence and Abuse

Verbal Abuse book summary
Excellent outline of information



To find help, support or assistance in your own area, go to Yahoo's Yellow Pages, input your city and state (upper right side), then click on the Community link.  Or, check the front pages of your phone book for crisis hotlines; they can refer you to help programs and free counseling programs.


Help & Support

The Healing Club

When Love Hurts
Geared toward female victims

Dr. Irene's Verbal Abuse Site
For abusers

Intimate/Domestic Violence:
 Definitions of Psychological Abuse
Information on Stalking
How to Get Help
Links to Other Helpful Sites

Gift From Within
Post Traumatic Stress Disorder

Women In Need
Support & Outreach

Verbal Abuse in the Workplace
at Ask the Workplace Doctors


New site by Lilac Lane:
about obsessed ex-husbands,
ex-boyfriends, ex-wives, etc.



Relationships 911

Cyberparent's Abuse site
Includes info for male victims

Help for Depression - links

Escaping Domestic Violence - links

DMOZ Directory Directory

Google Directory

Post Traumatic Stress links

Growing Beyond Emotional Abuse - links

Sanctuary for the Abused
Excellent list of links on right margin

LookSmart Links

Self Help Magazine links

KPorterfield links

Healthcyclopedia links

Wings of Fallen Angels - links

Hidden Hurt - UK links

Wings of Fire links

Internet Health Directory



The Verbally Abusive Relationship by Patricia Evans

How Do I Know It's Abuse?
For Counselors, Psychologists & Social Workers

Healing the Scars of Emotional Abuse

 The Secret of Overcoming Verbal Abuse by Albert Ellis, Marcia Grad Powers

Verbal Abuse: Survivors Speak Out by Patricia Evans

Emotional Abuse

Emotional Abuse: Trauma and Treatment

Teen Torment: Overcoming Verbal Abuse

You Can't Say That to Me:
Stopping the Pain of Verbal Abuse

Healing the Wounds of Emotional Abuse

The Courage to Say No More

The Many Faces of Abuse

Words Can Hurt - booklet

Emotional Abuse: Words Can Hurt

Stories from the Heart



Ditch That Jerk

No Visible Wounds:
Identifying Non-Physical Abuse

Encouragements for the
Emotionally Abused Woman

The Emotionally Abused Woman:
Reclaiming Yourself

by Beverly Engel

When Love Goes Wrong

Before It's Too Late

Excerpts from The Domestic Violence Sourcebook:
"Emotional abuse:  Consistently doing or saying things to shame, insult, ridicule, embarrass, demean, belittle, or mentally hurt another person ... withholding money, affection, or attention; forbidding someone to work, handle money, see friends or family, make decisions, socialize, keep property; flaunting infidelity; engaging in destructive acts; forcing someone to do things she does not want to do; manipulation; hurting or threatening children or pets; threatening to abandon; threatening to take children away ... refusing to help someone who is sick or hurt."
"The abusive man tries to take away his partner's power, while at the same time giving her the ultimate power to grant or deny him happiness by expecting her to make everything in his world perfect.  No woman can live up to the expectations ... because they are, by definition, impossible.  When she 'fails', he becomes enraged.  This also explains why the point of separation is often the most dangerous: Abusive men have a terrible fear of abandonment, and become desperate when they feel they could lose their partner."
"An abusive boyfriend often forces his girlfriend to abandon other friends, become alienated from her family, spend all her time with him, or even ... quit school.  The abuse generally starts with intimidation and verbal abuse, including name-calling, put-downs, and exploiting insecurities that are magnified during adolescence, such as the fear that no one else will want to date the girl.  It often involves the familiar control issues, such as activity control and isolation from family and friends.  The abusive teen often displays characteristic 'Jekyll and Hyde' personality swings ... Young women tend to be susceptible to romantic notions that 'true love' means an all-encompassing passion that allows for jealousy, possessiveness and aggression as a demonstration of devotion and commitment ... even those with a mature perspective, who know jealousy is not love and realize their abusive boyfriends are not likely to change, still have a hard time leaving the relationship."
"Most women are raised to believe that the woman is the primary caretaker of the family, the member responsible for 'holding things together'.  We are also taught from the days of childhood that 'Love conquers all'.  Many women believe on some level that if only they love a man enough, they can 'save' him and he will change.  Those who stay learn that he will not."

Dr. Susan Forward's "Personal Bill of Rights":
1. The right to be treated with respect
2. The right not to take responsibility for anyone else's problems or bad behavior
3. The right to get angry
4. The right to say no
5. The right to make mistakes
6. The right to your own feelings, opinions and convictions
7. The right to change your mind or decide on a different course of action
8. The right to negotiate for change
9. The right to ask for emotional support or help
10. The right to protest unfair treatment or criticism


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updated 2/2005