Obsessive Ex Syndrome
Personal accounts: Same-Sex Cases

The cases below represent typical OEX cases.  (The media does not bother to report on the many lesser crimes of early OEX stages.  Most cases of Obsessive Ex Syndrome do not reach Stage 6.)  The below data was collected via this website's anonymous survey.

It started after we moved in together. He locked me in the apartment, controlled mail, phone, and food, and did not take under consideration my food allergies that he knew about! Eventually turned to stalking and he chased me from Maine to NH, VT, Dallas, and yes even MA. He has broken many restraining orders and the cops refuse to pick him up. The judges will give orders but the cops will not follow through because of it is a same-sex domestic-violence case!  I am disabled and he knew that in the beginning too!

OBSESSIVE EX SYNDROME Stage 1: Courtship - tests how much control can get over partner Stage 2: Relationship - tries to maintain control Stage 3: Break-Up - Obsessor will not accept relationship is over; argues or discusses with ex-partner repeatedly Stage 4: Stalking - ex-partner is no longer willing to see Obsessor, but Obsessor keeps trying to contact Stage 5: Threats - intimidation, threatening, blackmail, etc Stage 6: Violence - abduction, assault, murder and/or suicide

    

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